This just in: Soon-to-be-former Rutgers student (and Bully) Molly Wei feels bad.
Not for the young man, Tyler Clementi, she helped to kill. For herself.
Molly feels “attacked”. She has said as much to People Magazine, which, far as I can see, is where people who consider themselves famous go when they have (1) lost weight, or (2) a complaint to air.
She feels so bad for herself that she hired the partners of a local law firm to release a statement last week, telling the whole world how “wonderful” Molly Wei is.
PR 101: when lawyers have to release a statement describing you as wonderful, it tends to have the opposite effect. This is comparable to having legal counsel state, “we are happy and the rumors are untrue”, when no one has seen you and the person who supposedly makes you happy together in the same place for six months.
But all of this is beside the point. The attacked (but wonderful) Molly Wei seems to have graduated from high school without learning what it is that you do when you create a situation like this. Will she? Not, evidently, with “friends” like this.
In the meantime, Molly’s Bully-buddy Dharun Ravi (who may now have to deal with additional charges, under NJ state law) released his own statement, again through a lawyer, on the same day. At least his statement acknowledged the death of his roommate; appropriate, because he is responsible for it.
(View at least part of the evidence against Dharun here.)
Here is the deal, soon-to-be-expelled Bullies of Rutgers. This is a bad moment to even seem to be an anti-gay bully. In affiliating yourselves as such, you place yourselves in league with these lovely people — not tough or smart enough to be real gang members, but edgy enough to put together a name for what they thought they were: The Latin King Goonies.
Which is not a descriptive, never mind creative, moniker. But I digress.
Of course I am belaboring the issue of how two young people (who are outgoing and happy!!) bullied a young man to his death. I am very proud to be able to do this, and I plan to continue. While I do, I plan to redirect my annual giving (I give quite a bit) to places like The Matthew Shepard Foundation, which do the good I won’t. The MSF goes right to the Bullies and those who harbor them, with the dual goals of saving lives and brokering peace.
The Bullies of the world can do something simple to make the recent negative attention stop, and they know what that something is. They learned it (or should have), long before they entered grade school. It is a simple action, but chances are they will not learn how to do it from a lawyer.
If neither of these wonderful people knows what you do when you’re caught doing something wrong, Rutgers is the last place he or she belongs.